Sometimes when we start a new relationship, we can be overcome with that “honeymoon” feeling. This can be blinding at times, and can keep us from making the best decision for our romantic lives in the long run.
This list of red flags, should not be used as a checklist, but as contributing factors to take note of when deciding if someone is worth your commitment. Sometimes, there are situations when people act in unethical ways that can be corrected by effective communication, love, and time.
Don’t end it with someone just because they may exhibit behaviors found on this list. It’s up to you to make the decision, whether the grass is worth watering, or isn’t.
These are the 10 red flags in men’s relationships.
1. She Doesn't Respect Her Parents
There’s an old saying that goes, “If he/she doesn’t treat her mom right, then he/she won’t treat you right”. This is very true since a person’s parents are in most cases, the first and only long term relationship they’ve ever experienced.
If she’s lying to them, screaming at them, calling them names, or manipulating them, then take into consideration that there may be a good chance that she will behave the same way with you as well.
2. She's Violent
There is a misconception going around that domestic violence is only caused by the male partner in a relationship. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1 in 7 men (13.8%) will experience severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
Unfortunately, there are many men that are embarrassed or afraid to speak out against their partner. Leaving does not seem to be an option at times, but it’s important to seek help whether you’re a man or a woman.
If you’re a victim of domestic violence, visit thehotline.org and take the steps necessary to become safe again.
If you detect early signs of violence from someone, it’s time to go.
3. She Calls You Names
There’s a difference between her saying “You’re acting like a…”, than her saying, “You’re a complete…”.
Things can get heated in an argument, but if she’s calling you degrading names when she’s angry, that’s a sign that she doesn’t respect you. This is a huge red flag that you should avoid.
4. She Lies About Little Things
If she blatantly lies to you about the little things, you can guarantee that she’s lying to you about the serious things.
People can lie when they’re afraid of the consequences; This is forgivable at times. However, when someone is such a habitual liar that they start lying to you about senseless situations. It’s time to put your guard up, and back away.
5. She Cheated On Her Last Partner With You
If she cheated with you, then she’s probably going to cheat on you.
Don’t trust anyone with your heart if she ever thought cheating was okay, even if it was with you. This is a sign that she’s not conflicted with the act and won’t hesitate to do it again.
6. She Demands To Look Through Your Phone
If she’s demanding to look through your phone, or you even catch her looking through it without your consent, this is a bad sign.
People see the world as they see themselves: Someone that doesn’t trust what’s going on in your phone is a strong indicator that whatever is going on in THEIR phone is a cause for concern.
7. She Keeps The Relationship A Secret
Some people just don’t want their relationship on blast, and this is perfectly okay. She doesn’t have to tell her parents or her Facebook about you as soon as you get together, that’s too much for some people.
However, if she’s putting in a strong effort to make sure that no-one but you and her know about the relationship, make sure she has a realistic and believable reason as to why that is.
A common indicator of cheating, is when people keep the relationship a heavily guarded secret.
8. She Plays The Victim In Every Situation
A big red flag that shouldn’t be ignored, is if she always plays the victim in all of her life situations.
Does she come home and complain about ALL of the people at her job, ALL the members of her family, and ALL of her “friends”? Chances are, she’s probably going to all of those people and complaining about you when things get shaky.
Commit to a person that takes responsibility for their own mistakes.
9. She's A Flake
Disrespect can be spoken in many different languages. If she makes a set plan with you and consistently cancels last-minute, it means that she doesn’t respect your time.
You don’t want to be in a relationship with someone that thinks their time is all that matters.
10. She Makes You Feel Stupid
If she makes you feel stupid for feeling some type of way, always shuts down your ideas, or if she insults your intelligence consistently; Don’t waste anymore time with them.
Spend your romantic life with someone that makes you feel valuable. They should treat you like a valuable asset to their life, and they should make you feel like your intellect is welcome in conversation.