Throughout life, it’s guaranteed that we are all going to experience pain of some kind. Pain can last just a few minutes, or it can last months. It’s important to remember that when you’re experiencing pain from a breakup, you’re not alone. There are so many people in the world that have lost someone they love dearly.
Not all of these methods will work for everybody, but hopefully if you are experiencing a breakup, at least one thing from this article will help you recover quickly, and in a healthy way.
1. Understand Why
The first step in recovering from a breakup, is to understand why it has happened. Yes, you will still be able to recover without understanding everything, but it will really help to not have to battle confusion.
If you were the one that made the decision to end your relationship, make sure you really reflect on the feelings that led you to make your decision, and convey these feelings to the other person.
If your ex is the one that made the decision, try to communicate with them and discover what made them feel the way they did. Without getting defensive, try to really take in what they have to say and reflect on it. This may be challenging, but no-ones feelings are ever invalid, if someone feels upset, they’re either misunderstanding what has really happened, or there is something cutting at them in a deep way that you don’t understand. Communicate fairly.
In some cases, completing this first step effectively could repair the relationship, and you may not even need to continue with the rest of these steps.
Exercise releases hormones called endorphins. Endorphins are a feel-good hormone that enhances your sense of well-being; After a breakup, you’ll want as much of this firing in your brain as possible.
At least 30 minutes of daily exercise will make a huge difference in how you feel. Consider going for a run, swim laps in the pool, do some yoga, etc.
3. Positive Affirmations
Breakups can really change the way you’ve been used to living, and they’ll make you feel like you’ve lost everything, but you haven’t. There are many things in life that, no matter how much you’ve trusted someone, or how much you’ve loved someone, no-one will ever be able to take away from you.
Take some time everyday to verbally state every single thing you can think of that you are grateful for. Make sure to say these things out loud, or write them down.
Writing down how you feel is a great method in the recovery process. Journaling helps you navigate, organize, and remember your feelings. It’s also helpful to look back and see how your feelings have evolved over the days and/or months that you’ve been recovering from the breakup.
Don’t avoid thoughts or feelings when you journal. Be honest with yourself and confront every emotion, even if it’s painful. Burying emotions can cause you to lose self-awareness, which may lead to social struggles later in life.
5. Talk About It
Talking about the breakup with friends and family will really help to release built-up emotions. If you don’t talk about the situation with someone, all you’re doing is keeping those emotions bottled-up inside.
If you don’t think you have anyone that you can talk to in-person. There are communities on websites like reddit and discord that are filled with people that will give you their opinions and support.
If you need to talk, create a topic on our community page, we’re here to support you.
6. Eat Healthy
Eating healthy has many benefits that will help you during a breakup. Your energy levels will increase, you’ll develop stronger mental clarity, and just like exercise-your brain will release endorphins. This will improve your sense of well-being and will combat sadness.
Here is a list of a few foods that are known to release endorphins…
- Dark Chocolate
7. Get Social
If you’re friends invite you out somewhere, GO! Don’t sit at home feeling depressed while you could be out enjoying the relationships you have with your friends, or even creating new romantic relationships with new people.
If you’re ready to, start dating again. Remember that one of the benefits of being single is that you’re not committed to anyone anymore; You get to fall in love all over again.
8. Unfollow Them On Social Media
This isn’t to be petty; It’s best to keep visual reminders to a minimum. Seeing what your ex is doing without you won’t make things any better, it will only make you more upset. It’s best to keep them unfollowed until you have emotional closure from the breakup.
It will also help to archive the pictures you took together somewhere you won’t open on accident. Wait until you’ve made peace with the situation before going through the photo album you made with them.
9. Focus On School, Work, Or Something Creative
Now is a great time to focus on yourself. Try putting 100% of your energy into learning something new, focusing on improving your performance at work, or even picking up a hobby that you enjoy putting your time into.
Keeping your mind occupied by pursuing your own personal goals is the key here. Find something that gives you a sense of fulfillment and self-worth. It will make you feel good about yourself and will really speed up the recovery process of a heartbreak.
While you’re incorporating these methods into your life, remember that with every day that goes by, you’re only growing stronger and the pain will start to slowly go away.
You’re life belongs to you, and no-one else. As you start to create new experiences with new people, it will only become easier to make peace and have closure.
The most important thing to remember during a breakup is that you’ve only ended one chapter to your book of life. One day, you may be married to the love of your life and you’ll think back on this day so thankful that it happened.
Sometimes it’s the pain we experience today, that creates the foundation for our happiness tomorrow.
Stay strong, stay true to yourself, and don’t be afraid to love again.